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Lori Verigin's avatar

Again, thank you for this excellent rebuttal. Absolutely a missed opportunity for the Atlantic to publish a balanced and informative article about MAiD.

Tania Stilson's avatar

I am the bereaved and loved one of one of the only 622 people who chose Track 2 MAiD in 2023.

My Dad, John Warren, was a long-time advocate for medical assistance in dying in Canada. He even sat as Vice President on the Board of Dying with Dignity during the Carter Case. He fought hard for all Canadians to have this legal and medical choice, and he celebrated when the laws changed. At the end of his life, he always spoke that this work, of all the work he did, was the work he was most proud of.

Our family understands MAiD from many levels. From living with Dad through his advocacy work, and eventually through his own choice. We understand it, and are thankful, that if approved, it can be an end-of-life option for Canadians.

We also believe it is an individual's choice. A choice that it is not necessarily the choice everyone should make. But let's educate ourselves about our choices - and be informed with facts, not misinformation and disinformation.

I've been relatively public with our story since my Dad's death in January 2023. I share my experience at death cafe's, a few podcasts here and there (thanks Disrupting Death!), presentations and such. Quite frankly anywhere that people are willing to have a proper conversation about it. I continue to learn things and am always open to new ideas and thoughts around this topic. It is all to new not to be.

I want Canadians to learn what Track 2 MAiD is like - from a daughter's perspective. Not necessarily from a legal standpoint, and perhaps not even just from the medical lens - although of course both are critically important.

I want Canadians to know what it feels like to intentionally walk towards death together with our loved ones - especially when by definition their death is not 'reasonably naturally foreseeable' and we are to wait at minimum, an additional 90 days.

90 days from today will be November 18th. The kids will have returned to school, the leaves will have fallen, the ghosts and goblins will have come to our door, and we are likely leaning into the holiday season. It's a long time.

I want people to know what it feels like to walk that path. I want those choosing MAiD, specifically Track 2 MAiD, and their families to feel supported, honoured, and embraced.

I do my best to volunteer to support other Canadians and their families who are making these difficult and heart-wrenching decisions of Track 2 MAiD. People who have struggled and battled decade-long illnesses. As one woman said to me who suffered a terrible genetic illness that took her two sisters and her Mom, "I know how this story ends. I just can't watch it again."

So I apologize for the rant, but I just want you to know from the small percentage of us supporting our Track 2 families, that your rebuttal makes all the difference. Thank you for supporting us and taking on the big guys.

Our loved ones lived fully and meaningful lives. My Dad, and many others I have had the privilege of meeting, lived deeply aligned with their values - both in life and in death. Thank you for giving them a voice.

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